Matchmaking is any process of introducing people for the purposes of
dating and
mating, usually in the context of
marriage.
In some cultures, the role of the matchmaker was and is quite professionalized. The
Ashkenazi Jewish
shadchan, or the
Hindu astrologer, were often thought to be essential advisors. In cultures where
arranged marriages were the rule, the
astrologer often claimed that the stars sanctified matches that both parents approved of, making it quite difficult for the possibly-hesitant children to easily object - and also making it easy for the astrologer to collect his fee. The
tarot has also been employed by some matchmakers.
Social dance, especially in frontier North America the
line dance and
square dance, has also been employed in matchmaking, usually informally. However, when farming families were widely separated and kept all children on the farm working, marriage-age children could often only meet in church or in such mandated social events. Matchmakers, acting as formal chaperones or as self-employed 'busybodies' serving less clear social purposes, would attend such events and advise families of any burgeoning romances before they went too far.
The influence of such people in a culture that didn't arrange marriages, and in which economic relationships (for example "being able to support a family", "good prospects") played a larger role in determining if a (male) suitor was acceptable, is difficult to determine. It may be fair to say only that they were able to speed up, or slow down, relationships that were already forming. In this sense they were probably not distinguishable from relatives, rivals, or others with an interest.
Clergy probably played a key role in most Western cultures, as they continue to do in modern ones, especially where they're the most trusted mediators in the society. Matchmaking was certainly one of the peripheral functions of the
village priest in Medieval
Catholic society, As well as a
Talmudic duty of
rabbis in traditional Jewish communities.
Since the emergence of the mythology of
romantic love in the Christian world in medieval times, the
pursuit of happiness via such romantic love has often been viewed as something akin to a
human right. Matchmakers trade on this belief, and the modern
net dating service is just one of many examples of a
dating system where technology is invoked as a magic charm with the capacity to bring happiness.
The acceptance of
dating systems, however, has created something of a resurgence in the role of the traditional professional matchmaker. Those who find dating systems or services useful but prefer human intelligence and personal touches can choose from a wide range of such services now available.
In
Singapore, the
Social Development Unit (SDU), run by the
city-state's
government, offers a combination of professional counsel and
dating system technology, like many commercial dating services. Thus the role of the matchmaker has become institutionalized, as a
bureaucrat, and every citizen in Singapore has access to some subset of the matchmaking services that were once reserved for
royalty or
upper classes.
The concept of matchmaking is also used in the business world and known as B2B Matchmaking, Investor Matchmaking, Business Speed Dating or Brokerage Events. In contradiction to social networking solutions, real meetings between business people are in focus. Trade fair organisations for example find this concept an added value for their exhibitors because it gives them the opportunity of advanced planned meetings.
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